Your Older Sister: How to Find and Stay True to Your Authentic Self

 

Today, I am sharing some tips on how to find your authentic self. In addition, I want to discuss how to stay connected to your inner truth.

Why Should I Find My Authentic Self?

Authenticity is all about honoring who you are and what feels true to you. By having a strong relationship to your authentic self, you are not easily swayed by people. Instead, you are aware of what feels good to you. This process is recursive and ever evolving. What may lock in with who you are a few years ago might not be the same later on in your life.

Meditate

This is the bane of my existence right there. For me, when I meditate, I see a lot of my inner chaos. But, I’d like to suggest that this is not a reflection on who you are as person. I genuinely believe we all have a “shadow self,” or a “dark side.” Sometimes, sitting in silence, observing your thoughts, is frightening because of this.

However, I think the more attuned you are to your thoughts, the more likely it is for you to see what makes you feel good. What feels authentic to you? Ask yourself this question in meditation, and try to see what comes up. It’s about polishing up that hidden image of your true self, and finding what this image entails.

When you are meditating, try to strip away the traditional or cultural definitions of morality. In fact, I would even go a step further and suggest to loosen the grip of others’ influence on you. Go to your pure, unadulterated self. Get to know what echoes around in your spirit.

Journal

Meditation is about establishing inner peace and knowledge. Writing in a journal as a reflection tool is about capturing these moments of clarity as well as the moments of intense disturbance. For me, I rely on journals to help me see patterns in my thinking. Sometimes, when intense emotions rise to the surface, it is hard to determine what to make of them.

Journaling provides a buffer to reactions. It slows down your reaction time, and lends itself as a tool to guide you back to your authentic self. The more you journal, the more likely it is for you to see through your thoughts and their implications.

Occasionally, you could go back and read old journal entries. See the patterns in your thinking and your behaviors. Then, make sure you include how the actions made you feel. You can eliminate what did not resonate with you and your true self.

Eventually, you have your own guidelines of how to act, carry yourself, and respond to external and internal triggers.

Do What Feels Good

After being connected to your own thoughts and emotions, it then boils down to taking actions that feel true to who you are. If you do something that does not resonate with who you are, take note of that. I know, for me, sometimes I get caught up in trying to please people and I forget to honor who I am in the process.

Be gentle with yourself. This is a lifelong process and there are no hard and fast rules. It is your journey; you get to decide what goes and what doesn’t. In the words of my favorite yoga teacher, Tara Stiles, “You can do anything you dream up,”

Focus inwards. See what feels right, and apply it.

And, finally, I want to emphasize that authenticity is not just about being true to who you are. It’s about being self-aware as well. It’s about kindness and sensitivity in regards to how others feel.

 

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1 thought on “Your Older Sister: How to Find and Stay True to Your Authentic Self”

  1. I don’t do meditation or any of that jazz. The result of being raised by hippies is you no longer put up with much hippie stuff. But if it works for you, then more power to you! (Too many incense-filled hippie stores in my childhood; way too many.) 🙂

    I think the most important thing is that we ask ourselves ‘How do I feel about [subject]?’ and then recognise that what we’re feeling – even if it’s not something logical – is what we’re feeling; and that our feelings and thoughts and opinions matter.

    Great post D. 🙂

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