In order to minimize the effects of collision the ground, it is helpful to try to live consciously. When you know yourself emotionally, mentally, spiritually, life’s surprises don’t shake you as much. Here are some tips for more conscious living.
Slow Your Roll
Breath carefully. Part of this awareness comes from your breath. Try to find your own rhythm of taking in inhales and exhales. One of the coolest things I have learned in recent days is the concept of ease. Tara Stiles talks about extensively in Strala Yoga. There is this weird idea that we need to be in pain to gain what we want. I never understood how and why that would ever work. But, I like the notion of moving with ease, breathing, carrying yourself with a sense of content and happiness. The rest will come on its own.
So, you need to be thinking carefully as well. You do have to get in touch with yourself frequently, on a daily basis at least. Try to figure out how you feel about things. How do you process what happens in your life? How do you dream? What do you dream of? Why do you think this way? When, how is it triggered? Where do you find yourself in reaction to these things you are faced with? Getting in touch with yourself allows you to have this awareness and understanding of why you feel and act the way you do. In therapy, we often talk about how mindfulness and observing feelings allows for a more leveled reaction. “Oh, I see that I am feeling judged, which makes me defensive. I don’t need to do that. I am safe. I don’t need to justify my worth to anyone.” Simple mantras like this help get perspective and avoid hurting yourself and others.
Find Your Own Truth
Another tip for living consciously relates to finding your own truths. In particular, doing so rather than following what is taught as the standard form of truth. In establishing this habit, you set your own rules and standards. Once you know what you stand for, you can figure out who you want to become based on these rules, you then can shape your reactions and actions based on what you value.
It’s about following intuition but with a sense of awareness, because not all things that come with ease are right. I think it’s key to not fall into the trap of knee-jerk reactions. Yes, it’s hard to find the stillness within in a world that is in fast-forward constantly. A well-thought out response takes effort, especially when starting out, but it is worth it.
There also comes this acceptance of who you are and your capacities. This self-awareness is not about limiting yourself, but it is about not forcing things. Let your strengths shine, and be understanding of what you can and cannot do. I think some trial and error can help guide you along the way, but there’s also the concept of saying no more often. Reject what is expected and find what you value, follow that as a guide.
Empathy and Forgiveness
Another aspect of living consciously lies in forgiveness and understanding others. It is a challenge to see where people are coming from, but compassion makes us more than just reacting objects. It gives us perspective and it allows others to see us with love and understanding in return.
I’ll end with this note: it’s hard to develop this tuning within, this understanding of oneself and our ethics, values, talents, capabilities, because we live in a time where urgency is everything. We’re so caught up on the literal, the physical, the tangible, that we forget to go inwards and get in touch with our deepest beliefs. We are taught to give in to societal terms and rules and regulations so much that we suppress our own values. It doesn’t have to be this way. You can lead a happier life, a more content and peaceful life, with acceptance and love for yourself and others.